I think that we can all agree that the word Bitch has a negative connotation. That's why I don't understand why women often refer to each other as a bitch like some kind of term of endearment. Women will often will proudly proclaim "I am a bitch" as if it's a badge of honor. Of course they have to make sure you are well aware that they are a bitch by sporting the latest fashion accessory, the resting bitch face. I see female friends posting on social media all the time with phrases like "night out with my bitches" or posting memes like this one:
Now I know some of you (probably the women who use the term) will argue along the lines that you have de-stigmatized the word by reclaiming it, but is that really better than erasing the word from your lexicon? Like a racial slur or Nazi flag, wouldn't a better approach be to stigmatize it to the point that it's completely unacceptable by anyone?
Oxford dictionary offers a couple different definitions which include "a spiteful or unpleasant woman" and a "person who is completely subservient to another". Wikipedia states that "Bitch, literally meaning a female dog, is a slang pejorative for a person, commonly a woman, who is belligerent, unreasonable, malicious, a control freak, rudely intrusive or aggressive... in a feminist context, it can indicate a strong or assertive woman."
So why would someone want to wear this moniker? I still have not figured that out. By the first Oxford definition, the feminist is arguing that she is subservient and proud, ideals which they oppose. By the Wiki definition, this person isn't someone anyone would want to befriend - male or female. So the feminist chooses to redefine the word to suit their needs, with no actual understanding of how or why men use the term.
Kate Figes wrote a piece for the Guardian defending the word from a feminist perspective, stating:
For centuries, the straight definition of the word bitch was simply a sexually promiscuous woman. Then, as women became more powerful throughout the 20th century, the definition expanded to include being duplicitous. Now men tend to call women bitches when they do not get what they want from them. So, if a woman turns a man down for a date, she is a bitch. If she climbs the career ladder faster than him, she is a bitch. If she becomes his boss and turns down one of his ideas, she is - you guessed it - a bitch.
The problem with this argument is that I, nor any male I have ever known, have never used the term bitch to mean anything she states. A promiscuous woman is a slut or whore. A bitch is a bitch because she acts rude or mean, perhaps maliciously, towards the opposite sex. It's that simple. Think of it as a woman who fails to listen to your point of view or perspective, or who attempts to emasculate you. Like a guy you would call a dick. But even in that common context, it's the most vulgar representation of those qualities sparsely used because few women are that rude.
She goes on to say:
Given all its negative connotations, it is not surprising that women fear being called a bitch. In fact, though, it is something that we should embrace. Why? The US feminist magazine BITCH explains it like this on its website: "When it's being used as an insult, bitch is an epithet hurled at women who speak their minds, who have opinions and do not shy away from expressing them and who do not sit by and smile uncomfortably if they are bothered or offended. If being an outspoken woman means being a bitch, we will take that as a compliment, thanks.
Well what do you know, there's a whole magazine dedicated to the bitch movement, and again, I disagree with the writers interpretation of the word. A woman who speaks her mind, I would love that. So would every guy I know, as long as she can back it up with some intelligent thought that supports her opinion. The truth is we do find intelligence sexy.
Another feminist leaning writer, Kat George, better understands the male view of the word, but still argues that women should reclaim its use:
My biggest issue with reclaiming “bitch” is this: men generally don’t see it as the powerful, gendered slur that it is, because it is so commonly and freely used. So much so in fact, that once when listening to drive time radio, the station censored “God damn” from a male musician’s song, but kept “bitch”.
If you read my recent post on spotting a feminist, you know that I find feminism to be a cancer to modern society. It's encouraging women to embrace qualities which serve them no good, and take up causes that make no sense. We now have obese women happy to be obese, women shaving their heads as some sort of act of rebellion, arguments from feminists that Wonder Woman should have armpit hair, and women who segregate themselves from men rather than seek common ground. All of these things erode the foundation of society by leaving us with broken families, and children who watch their parents settle on divorce as an escape. The feminist stands there arguing why she shouldn't do the dishes because such a concession would undermine her freedom, rather than rationally offer a compromise by saying "I'll do the dishes if you do something else".
In the spirit of compromise, I offer this: I promise to not call you a bitch if you promise to not call yourself one. If you would like the respect of men, start off by respecting yourself enough to not embrace such a derogatory term. Deal?
Jeremy Wright is a self described opinionated bastard. Follow him on Facebook.